Let it Go. Giving the Gift of Peace.

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The owner of our company came in this morning and declared that today is to be the day that we let go. The day we forgive and forget. Today is the day we choose to be stronger than the "drama" in our lives and choose to make life better.

He wrote on our whiteboard this quote:

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Mahatma Gandhi

He is a very health conscience and passionate man. So I couldn't help but use his passion and determination as inspiration for today's post. I mean it was literally the first thing he declared when he passed my office this morning. Our business mission is to develop and market safe, reliable, effective products, which will improve the quality of life for all people, our wish goes beyond our supplements and we dream of a world with overall happiness and wellness.
I think that we all can think of someone that has wronged us and it isn't easy to carry anger and hurt. To completely let go of something painful and forgive the person who may or may not have realized what they did is a hard thing to do. It is easy at times to be convinced that the person who hurt did it with full intention and cruelty. Feeling no compassion; just unadulterated pain and rage.
This is usually not the case however. Generally no one is purely bad, and everyone carries pain that influences their decisions. This doesn't condone their thoughtless, insensitive, or selfish decisions, but it makes them easier to understand. After all, we've all been thoughtless, insensitive, and selfish at times. Usually, we have good intentions. After doing research we have come up with ways to let go and reasons to forgive, to forget, and to heal.

Time

We have all heard it but it is the truth. If you can't move on right now don't beat yourself up. You do not want to keep thinking of the past. If you don’t feel forgiving, you can at least not act on anger and count that as a triumph. Remember that we are all doing the best we can at the time. Don’t force it. Yes, by all means set goals and take steps in the right direction, but don’t disregard the baby steps, these steps are your life’s story. Let go of all the needless trying and let yourself take these steps peacefully and mindfully. When you let go of it, you get over the anger/bitterness that you felt and it clears the path for forgiveness. Eventually forgiveness will come if you welcome it.

Get it Out

Write a brutally honest, emotionally raw letter telling them how much they have hurt and angered you. Or write about everything that is bothering you and how you feel at the time. Then read it, hopefully it will bring out some emotion and can help you sort your feelings. Then tear it up, think about the fact that you are not that hurt and that anger. It is fleeting, just like everything else. Let the letter carrying your hurt and disappointment disappears into the air, you can let it go.
Hopefully you will come to the realization that no one ever gets to the end of their life and thinks, “I wish I stayed angry longer.”

Be a little Selfish

Remind yourself to forgive not for them but for you and that it’s easier to forgive than to hang on to so much anger, hurt and betrayal. If you have done all you can do and they choose to still be hateful or hurtful, just do what you need to do and forget about them. Remember you. Working on a better you is more fulfilling than hanging on. Let it all go and hold on to your growth and kindness instead. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your positive energy will attract more positive results into your current reality.
Be unlike the person or situation that hurt you. Let go and grow past your pain. Carry on living well in a way that creates peace in your heart. The energy you would spend reliving a situation can be better spent creating an amazing future for yourself.

Don't be so hard on yourself

Let go of the need to forgive every mistake."Mistakes are the growing pains of wisdom." We all make mistakes, they just need to be accepted, not forgiven. There is an obvious shift in your heart and mind that happens when you go from feeling hurt and upset to peaceful and loving, but it’s not necessarily forgiveness that’s taking place, it’s just the realization that there was nothing to forgive in the first place. Perfection doesn't exist. Forgiveness is oftentimes the simple realization that there is nothing that actually needs to be forgiven.